In the search for the ‘non-perfect’

As time goes by and, all these faces pass by — I still have that question deep inside my inner hurt soul: ‘where would it be that one who would challenge my mind and, waken up my soul with his gentlemen and chivalry ideas and pure soul?’

And then, I see him passing by thinking that he’s a different one and figuring out that he’s nothing but another ‘face’ passing by. Is all these feelings and ‘the supposedly’ shared thoughts are just a lie? or is it just an illusion of a tired soul from all these superficial and, fake souls? Allas! they keep on hurting that generous heart by ignorance, and stupid acts…

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A woman NOT ‘Horma’…

I shall share these free verses for EVERY and EACH woman in the African lands, in the Arab World and EVERYWHERE … To all those who being a ‘woman’ was ‘a constant struggle of survival’… To all those who WENT beyond their ‘FEAR’ to claim for what’s from the first hand: ‘a natural right’… To all those who ‘FREEDOM’ was a FIGHT… To the women whom I am proud of, my mother (the first lady of my heart who lost her freedom for my education: MOTHER — wherever you are I WON’T LET YOU DOWN), To the women who believed in my potential (Anne, Lucie, Therese, Celine, Emmanuelle, Carole, Adina, Bouthaina Ben Ghozlan, Margeuerite, Juliet,  my inspiring author ‘Nawel saadawi’…), I am STILL ALIVE and will peacefully GET where I want… ‘Asma Ghali, Women In Politics‘

 

Years of crisis and unjust words getting by,

Obedient, they only want to see us passed by 

Culture and, tradition get them to suppress us

Blend our minds and mix them with wrong ideals about ‘the obedient good wife’, ‘the charming slave girl’, and, ‘the violently abused adult’

Who said that maternity is not good or being in love isn’t’ a right? Yet, is it still the case of a fourteen year old girl?

How could you justify the abuse of a child? How could you approve the Genital Female Mutilation based on tribes?

How could you still ‘ be pouring’ the same burned tape of ‘keep it discret’, ‘don’t speak, ‘don’t express your opinion’, until 2016?

Since when saying the truth and trying to get out of the oppression is a shame and a sin?

Since when love is a sin? Since when God said not to love but to abuse?

To all women I know who still –dealing with the mental abuse they are getting through– let,’s stand together and raise out from the crowd!

Don’t let them abuse you anymore, don’t justify violence with love 

If one loves, he respects you and…

RESPECT is by no mean BEATING and OPPRESSING you

Stop saying you CANNOT because the society imposes the norms! BE the ONE you ARE as long as you are not doing something wrong… and what’s right, anyways?

We are born free! Do not let the society chains you and get the best years of your life…

To all my friends, women, people, and, those who know and never know me- I dare you to raise for your rights! FREEDOM is a RIGHT that in some areas of the world you MUST FIGHT for

BE the bearer of YOUR own decision and the writer of your future. Don’t follow the crowd

Who said it’s easy? It’s never easy and never will BUT, it’s better than dying each moment in each day…

If you fear poverty, isolation and, estrangement, well I’d rather live that than being ‘a slave’…Isn” it why you were educated?

If you fear your creator, well I wouldn’t believe by no mean that a merciful, just and, perfect creator would agree on such a bad treatments– so be the ONE who SCREAM out the TRUTH and the HOLDER of YOUR life…

Let’s MAKE the 8th of March a very Wonderful Only Mainly Anti Narcism day!

Let’s MAKE the 8th EVERYday – a FREEDOM, EQUALITY and, JUSTICE for WOMEN

And no matter how hard life could turn, remember YOU could make the change, JUST BELIEVE — That’s been what I am doing everyday and it’s working

Let them dare your will and question your capacity! don’t bow after a hundred failed try…

For that remember, as a wise woman, one day told me: ‘after a very depressing and rainy day, the sun will shine’…

Even if you are a woman born in the wrong place, make your new home a better one 🙂

HOPE !

 

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If I learned a lesson in this life, it will be the following:
Some people have freedom for granted, others don’t have it at all and others will struggle to get it.
What is really shameful not talking about oppression.
Those who talk about ”human rights” should have a free spirit and an open mind to believe that injustice exist before talking about instructing ”Human rights”!

Wonders on Freedom

In most societies either of North Africa or the middle east, women are still considered unable to define their own boarders of freedom. In other words, women are not able to do what they really want to. For instance, faith and all its package is just imposed on them. It is indeed, something that is taught to them since their childhood. Of course, needless to say that raising a girl is quite different than a boy in such societies. Now here is the big picture.

It all begins the same way. boys and girls don’t realize how different they have been taught until the age of fourteen or before. It depends. Anyways, girls begin to realize from the manners they are taught that they barely control something in their whole lives. It depends on the family but sometimes, girls don’t have to conform to the dressing code of her community although, she must behave like it was said to her. For instance, many North African women are not wearing Hijab but are living the same hell just like the Hijab ones. Indeed, they must keep their ”virginity” until marriage. They also, have no right to stay late night. They in the worst cases are tight to their mother’s chest. Who knows, maybe something from the air would rape them and bring shame to the whole family!!! I always wondered what relates one’s body to the whole family… Never mind!

Another important matter is noticed. In these societies, women’ s freedom is always associated to marriage. If a girl, for example, wants to go out, reads a book or even visits a friend, she must obey to her parents. she cannot not do so unless she is married! Well, in the last case, her freedom’s ”copyright” goes back to her new owner, – excuse me- I meant sponsor or husband. So, if I got it right, women after being controlled, bound to their mother’s chest, they are , after marriage, bound to their husband’s power. How can we say: ”marriage is the ultimate source of freedom to women?” well, it depends on luck.

All in all, women are purely enslaved more than the salve in 60’s in South America. At least, the latter had the right to protest and free themselves. Women I am talking about are still imprisoned and unheard. They, themselves, are still thinking that ”marriage” is their key to freedom!!!!

Better saying: ”freedom is a length of an appropriate arranged marriage”

What the bible says about abortion VS. Reality

“How can you deny an abortion to a twelve-year-old girl who is the victim of incest?”
by David C. Reardon, Ph.D.

But in fact, the welfare of a mother and her child are never at odds, even in sexual assault cases. As the stories of many women confirm, both the mother and the child are helped by preserving life, not by perpetuating violence. Sadly, however, the testimonies of women who have actually been pregnant through sexual assault are routinely left out of this public debate. Many people, including sexual assault victims who have never been pregnant, may be forming opinions based on their own prejudices and fears rather than the real life experiences of those people who have been in this difficult situation and reality.(1) This how they think in society.

God Says to Love Our Children.

Titus 2:4 — Young women should be taught to love their children. But an unborn baby is a “child,” and a woman who has conceived is a mother even before the baby is born. The Bible tells us how we should act toward those we love (I Cor. 13:4-7), and this teaching definitely does not allow us to kill them (Rom. 13:8-10). We have clearly established that abortion is wrong without even (thus far) examining passages specifically dealing with murder. Abortion does fit the Bible definition of murder. But even if it did not, it would still be sinful because it is unloving, a lack of appreciation for God’s blessings, and a gross abuse of our stewardship to raise our children as God directs.(2)

Why not trying to see it from the baby’s percepective?

Let’s just begin this with ”if”

If the baby (the fruit of love) which is coming out of actually a sin, is born.

If he/she came to life. The mother never wanted him/her. She might even think of dying thrice than giving birth to him. As a matter of fact, her family already showed her hell. Then, here comes the society who would never stop blaming her from a mistake that only god knows whether he will forgvie her or not. Again, finishing with the same probability, that the woman followed the bible’s thought and had the baby.

Aren’t she in fact, raising him/her with all that tension, violence, and pain she had been through? Let’s suppose that she won’t. How would her excpect that her baby live after? He/she will directly think of revange. I am not talking about ecceptions here. I am talking about a society that  tightly goes with religion. This society where shame is brought by having a girl. This society may look open-minded in surface, but deep inside, this society is fundamentally conservative. It is how it is. Let’s just be honnest to our seleves. Even puritans before, cursed the woman Hestler Prynne for her sin and never asked her for the wrong guy. They screwed her and put an ”A” in her breast just because at that time, she didn’t have means to do abortion and hide her mistake.

Now, society evolves. People tend to say that they accept differences and sometimes wrong deeds. However, they keep trying to hide that mock gaze, they always succed on showing it. In the Tunisian society or any other society, wrong is wrong. Or esle, could someone here tell me what is the difference between humans and animals?

I just wonder why when we have temporary solutions for sins, we concider the solution itself a mistake?

I know it is partial, but can anyone for a minute put himself/herself on the shoe of that poor and innocent child who was refused first by his/her dad then his/her mommy and even his/her family then society later on?

Don’t you think that the choice of abortion in itself is a refusal and denail of having the baby?

Why do they still argue about life and death? What if the baby decides to die than seeing the day of the funeral of his/her mother?

Let’s just face it, abortion in mostly all cases, is the best thing to do than cursing a life of an innocent child!

The abortion debate asks whether it is morally right to terminate a pregnancy before child birth, I would say the right question would be whether it is right to decide on behlf of the mother and the baby himself!

References:

(1) Online source same as the title of the picture

(2) : http://www.bible.ca/s-Abortion.htm

the pitfall of love

‘’Tormented by her feeling for her coming baby and society, she slept under a branch of tree thinking of all this…’’

Utter darkness surround this dead heart
Gloomy fate is waiting between the twilight
Tormented by these thoughts : Religion and Tradition
She just don’t know whether she wants him or not
Sometimes she build a bridge of passion in her dreams
Other times she sees herself condemned by this society
All she wants is some care, respect and love
All she needs is that tender hug
But if she confess this
She will be shadowed , soon forgotten not even respected
For that is forbidden and inaccurate
They do not abuse a man who do so yet if it’s a girl
Hell NO !!!! She soon become described as ”a whore’’, ”a bitch”
They do not judge those who secretly share passion
yet for the name of religion they judge those innocent lovers…
And the question remains: Is Love after all a crime?
And the dark fate is still after her like a familiar ghost…

Is there real life in the city??

Life is about change but this story I am going to tell would never express change. It may showcase pain, turmoil, disbelief, loss of identity and soul, Erotomania and hateread but never regret …

I won’t take that long introducing; I would just let you deduce the end.

A girl used to live in a small village; she graduated and eventually went to college in Tunis.

She rent a house not far from the city and the university at the same time. As a matter of fact, she didn’t rent a house; she lived with some of her relatives in Tunis. In their culture, living alone is ‘’7aram’’ (forbidden). She needs a man to protect her or else, she is not allowed to live by her own. She never discussed that.

Protection is needed in the evil world. Indeed, a world full of briberies, struggle and stealing is awful.

The city is nice. There are many coffee shops in there. Boys and girls never met behind the olive tree beside the high-school. Moreover, they never needed to hide or feel shy for just exchanging ideas. In addition, they never needed to express their un-touchable love. They are just free to do whatever they want in public.

Traditions differ from the village. In the city, do whatever you want. You would be called: “a slat’’ but silently, secretly and even unnoticeably.

At the first day college, she noticed all of her friends are mixed. Some like her came from quite far villages and live in dorms. Others came from the suburb of Tunis but originally are mixed. Now, the reader here would be suspicious: ‘’mixed what? Race?’’ No, dear reader, the French colonization didn’t define ‘mixed’ in the Tunisian context as ‘mixed-race’. Mixed generally means an ‘outsider’ coming from another region of Tunisia!!!

A question that always makes her tired! If we are all from the same country; Tunisia, then why would people care for the region of origin? Why would they mock the Tunisian like them? Germans have different dialects that belong to different region of Germany, why wouldn’t they also be divided according to that??

Faces are rushing in the crowd. She never was able to recognize a person. They are all sad and in a constant rush. She never saw a smiling face like the shopkeeper of their neighborhood. There is not real feeling or real contact. Everyone In rush.

Friendship is only those of giving and taking. Feelings are not there. Business is business. That is the rule applied for love, friendship and even partnership.

to be continued,

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Tunisian women rights: Law gurentee them but ….?!.