A woman NOT ‘Horma’…

I shall share these free verses for EVERY and EACH woman in the African lands, in the Arab World and EVERYWHERE … To all those who being a ‘woman’ was ‘a constant struggle of survival’… To all those who WENT beyond their ‘FEAR’ to claim for what’s from the first hand: ‘a natural right’… To all those who ‘FREEDOM’ was a FIGHT… To the women whom I am proud of, my mother (the first lady of my heart who lost her freedom for my education: MOTHER — wherever you are I WON’T LET YOU DOWN), To the women who believed in my potential (Anne, Lucie, Therese, Celine, Emmanuelle, Carole, Adina, Bouthaina Ben Ghozlan, Margeuerite, Juliet,  my inspiring author ‘Nawel saadawi’…), I am STILL ALIVE and will peacefully GET where I want… ‘Asma Ghali, Women In Politics‘

 

Years of crisis and unjust words getting by,

Obedient, they only want to see us passed by 

Culture and, tradition get them to suppress us

Blend our minds and mix them with wrong ideals about ‘the obedient good wife’, ‘the charming slave girl’, and, ‘the violently abused adult’

Who said that maternity is not good or being in love isn’t’ a right? Yet, is it still the case of a fourteen year old girl?

How could you justify the abuse of a child? How could you approve the Genital Female Mutilation based on tribes?

How could you still ‘ be pouring’ the same burned tape of ‘keep it discret’, ‘don’t speak, ‘don’t express your opinion’, until 2016?

Since when saying the truth and trying to get out of the oppression is a shame and a sin?

Since when love is a sin? Since when God said not to love but to abuse?

To all women I know who still –dealing with the mental abuse they are getting through– let,’s stand together and raise out from the crowd!

Don’t let them abuse you anymore, don’t justify violence with love 

If one loves, he respects you and…

RESPECT is by no mean BEATING and OPPRESSING you

Stop saying you CANNOT because the society imposes the norms! BE the ONE you ARE as long as you are not doing something wrong… and what’s right, anyways?

We are born free! Do not let the society chains you and get the best years of your life…

To all my friends, women, people, and, those who know and never know me- I dare you to raise for your rights! FREEDOM is a RIGHT that in some areas of the world you MUST FIGHT for

BE the bearer of YOUR own decision and the writer of your future. Don’t follow the crowd

Who said it’s easy? It’s never easy and never will BUT, it’s better than dying each moment in each day…

If you fear poverty, isolation and, estrangement, well I’d rather live that than being ‘a slave’…Isn” it why you were educated?

If you fear your creator, well I wouldn’t believe by no mean that a merciful, just and, perfect creator would agree on such a bad treatments– so be the ONE who SCREAM out the TRUTH and the HOLDER of YOUR life…

Let’s MAKE the 8th of March a very Wonderful Only Mainly Anti Narcism day!

Let’s MAKE the 8th EVERYday – a FREEDOM, EQUALITY and, JUSTICE for WOMEN

And no matter how hard life could turn, remember YOU could make the change, JUST BELIEVE — That’s been what I am doing everyday and it’s working

Let them dare your will and question your capacity! don’t bow after a hundred failed try…

For that remember, as a wise woman, one day told me: ‘after a very depressing and rainy day, the sun will shine’…

Even if you are a woman born in the wrong place, make your new home a better one 🙂

HOPE !

 

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Wonders on Freedom

In most societies either of North Africa or the middle east, women are still considered unable to define their own boarders of freedom. In other words, women are not able to do what they really want to. For instance, faith and all its package is just imposed on them. It is indeed, something that is taught to them since their childhood. Of course, needless to say that raising a girl is quite different than a boy in such societies. Now here is the big picture.

It all begins the same way. boys and girls don’t realize how different they have been taught until the age of fourteen or before. It depends. Anyways, girls begin to realize from the manners they are taught that they barely control something in their whole lives. It depends on the family but sometimes, girls don’t have to conform to the dressing code of her community although, she must behave like it was said to her. For instance, many North African women are not wearing Hijab but are living the same hell just like the Hijab ones. Indeed, they must keep their ”virginity” until marriage. They also, have no right to stay late night. They in the worst cases are tight to their mother’s chest. Who knows, maybe something from the air would rape them and bring shame to the whole family!!! I always wondered what relates one’s body to the whole family… Never mind!

Another important matter is noticed. In these societies, women’ s freedom is always associated to marriage. If a girl, for example, wants to go out, reads a book or even visits a friend, she must obey to her parents. she cannot not do so unless she is married! Well, in the last case, her freedom’s ”copyright” goes back to her new owner, – excuse me- I meant sponsor or husband. So, if I got it right, women after being controlled, bound to their mother’s chest, they are , after marriage, bound to their husband’s power. How can we say: ”marriage is the ultimate source of freedom to women?” well, it depends on luck.

All in all, women are purely enslaved more than the salve in 60’s in South America. At least, the latter had the right to protest and free themselves. Women I am talking about are still imprisoned and unheard. They, themselves, are still thinking that ”marriage” is their key to freedom!!!!

Better saying: ”freedom is a length of an appropriate arranged marriage”

the pitfall of love

‘’Tormented by her feeling for her coming baby and society, she slept under a branch of tree thinking of all this…’’

Utter darkness surround this dead heart
Gloomy fate is waiting between the twilight
Tormented by these thoughts : Religion and Tradition
She just don’t know whether she wants him or not
Sometimes she build a bridge of passion in her dreams
Other times she sees herself condemned by this society
All she wants is some care, respect and love
All she needs is that tender hug
But if she confess this
She will be shadowed , soon forgotten not even respected
For that is forbidden and inaccurate
They do not abuse a man who do so yet if it’s a girl
Hell NO !!!! She soon become described as ”a whore’’, ”a bitch”
They do not judge those who secretly share passion
yet for the name of religion they judge those innocent lovers…
And the question remains: Is Love after all a crime?
And the dark fate is still after her like a familiar ghost…

Is there real life in the city??

Life is about change but this story I am going to tell would never express change. It may showcase pain, turmoil, disbelief, loss of identity and soul, Erotomania and hateread but never regret …

I won’t take that long introducing; I would just let you deduce the end.

A girl used to live in a small village; she graduated and eventually went to college in Tunis.

She rent a house not far from the city and the university at the same time. As a matter of fact, she didn’t rent a house; she lived with some of her relatives in Tunis. In their culture, living alone is ‘’7aram’’ (forbidden). She needs a man to protect her or else, she is not allowed to live by her own. She never discussed that.

Protection is needed in the evil world. Indeed, a world full of briberies, struggle and stealing is awful.

The city is nice. There are many coffee shops in there. Boys and girls never met behind the olive tree beside the high-school. Moreover, they never needed to hide or feel shy for just exchanging ideas. In addition, they never needed to express their un-touchable love. They are just free to do whatever they want in public.

Traditions differ from the village. In the city, do whatever you want. You would be called: “a slat’’ but silently, secretly and even unnoticeably.

At the first day college, she noticed all of her friends are mixed. Some like her came from quite far villages and live in dorms. Others came from the suburb of Tunis but originally are mixed. Now, the reader here would be suspicious: ‘’mixed what? Race?’’ No, dear reader, the French colonization didn’t define ‘mixed’ in the Tunisian context as ‘mixed-race’. Mixed generally means an ‘outsider’ coming from another region of Tunisia!!!

A question that always makes her tired! If we are all from the same country; Tunisia, then why would people care for the region of origin? Why would they mock the Tunisian like them? Germans have different dialects that belong to different region of Germany, why wouldn’t they also be divided according to that??

Faces are rushing in the crowd. She never was able to recognize a person. They are all sad and in a constant rush. She never saw a smiling face like the shopkeeper of their neighborhood. There is not real feeling or real contact. Everyone In rush.

Friendship is only those of giving and taking. Feelings are not there. Business is business. That is the rule applied for love, friendship and even partnership.

to be continued,

the spring trend: rape women, children, elders–> dear men enjoy your life!!! you are in the freedom era

After the so called ”revolution” in Tunisia, many unsual things happen. With the increase of briberies and insecurity, rape became the new trend of the year.

“The rape case of the poor three-year-old girl was shocking to all Tunisians,” Bourriel stated. “We warned the minister before about illegal daycare centers but no measures were taken to prevent such incidents.”

It was really chocking to hear about this in Tunisia but the Minester of ours was shopping outside Tunisia. The poor Minester! she did not hear about it!!! She was surprised and as soon as she has time, she would take care of the case!

Honestly, I cannot find any excuses of all these sick minds! They did not only rape women but children and even elders.

Now, Islamists said that women were not wearing properly but the question this time: what about the three years old girl?!

The only conclusion one can have from the wonderful scene in Tunisia is that the government is keeping its patriarchal aspect ignoring the other half of humanity whether this half consists of : women, children, lisbians or gays!

It appears that those sick minds that rule cannot accept the fact that there is another equal sex that shares life with them.

As Freud said: ”too many pressure put on men’s lust together with religion which made them unable to resist and turn to be savages.”

Dear all, while walking in the street, keep an eye , there are dogs everywhere!!!

Women International Day: a word for Tunisian women

I would like to congratulate all women in Tunisia. I would like, also dedicate this quotes for them:    

“Well-behaved women seldom make history.”
― Laurel Thatcher Ulrich, Well-Behaved Women Seldom Make History

 

Women in Tunisia though were lucky to have laws to guarantee their rights; the mentality of people didn’t change.  First of all, women were barely present in the political scene. Indeed, women presented in the Tunisian parliament were few. In fact, the presence of women there was just for decoration or else to add flavor to the meal. Furthermore, women were not equal to men even in the economic level. In this respect, women get the half of the wage of men in Tunisia. They are also, suffering from unemployment more than men. This sufferance wasn’t due to their lack of qualification but to the rooted mentality. Moreover, women in Tunisia are victims of the Tunisian social standards. In this respect, women in Tunisia sometimes, they drop school earlier than boys. Other times, they are obliged to quit their jobs and nurse their kids. Overall, the number of women who achieve certain position is few. Only the elite would be able to prove their existence in such a patriarchal society. For this reason, I refer to what Virginia Woolf states: ‘’ For most of history, Anonymous was a woman.” In fact, it is the case of Tunisian women. Even though, they participated in the revolution and they tried to raise their voice; there is always oppression that controls the atmosphere of the scene.

Nowadays, it is quite difficult to be a woman especially in an Arab society. According to Joseph Conrad[1]: “Being a woman is a terribly difficult task, since it consists principally in dealing with men (9).’’ Indeed, in Tunisia, it is not an easy task to get what you want and express yourself. Many pressures are put on women tradition, society or culture.  

However, as a Tunisian woman, I tried to de-chain these boundaries, express myself without fear. In fact, I do believe that a small contribution is a step toward freedom. Being chained never means that you are enslaved. For that slavery isn’t about real acts but about psychology. Women are enslaved inside their own sphere of thoughts that deprive them from moving toward their freedom. I am not taking this step further alone, we; all Tunisian women; are trying to fight against this patriarchal and unfair treatment. Our way toward freedom is quite long. We need just to be united, believe in salvation and never bow.

For these reasons, I do again congratulate women in Tunisia and all over the world. I would like to transmit this message to every Tunisian woman; I would just ask her for patience.

Eventually, be united, be strong, and never bow! We can do it!

Written by Asma Ghali,

 

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[1] http://www.goodreads.com/quotes/tag/women

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